<p id=”par-1_55″>When <a href=”https://www.cheatsheet.com/tag/jennifer-lopez/?swcfpc=1″>Jennifer Lopez</a> and <a href=”https://www.cheatsheet.com/tag/ben-affleck/?swcfpc=1″>Ben Affleck</a> were together the first time, she said he wore the pants in their <a href=”https://www.cheatsheet.com/tag/celebrity-relationships/?swcfpc=1″>relationship</a>. This statement got some eye rolls, as it’s clear to most that Lopez is extremely career-driven. She acknowledged this and said her work life is the reason she likes to “submit” in her romantic relationships. </p>
<h2 class=”wp-block-heading” id=”h-jennifer-lopez-said-she-likes-to-fall-into-traditional-roles-in-her-relationship-nbsp”>Jennifer Lopez said she likes to fall into traditional roles in her relationship </h2>
<p id=”par-2_27″>In 2003, Lopez and Affleck gave a joint interview as an engaged couple. When asked about their dynamic, Lopez said <a href=”https://www.cheatsheet.com/entertainment/jennifer-lopez-said-ben-affleck-definitely-wears-pants-relationship-in-2003.html/”>Affleck “wears the pants”</a> in their relationship.</p>
<p id=”par-3_22″>“Ben wears the pants,” Lopez told <a target=”_blank” href=”https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iWju7XnlgHo” rel=”noreferrer noopener”>Access Hollywood</a>. “He definitely wears the pants. We respect each other and that’s the important thing.”</p>
<figure class=”wp-block-image size-full” id=”emb-1″><img decoding=”async” src=”https://www.cheatsheet.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/Affleck-Lopez.webp?strip=all&quality=80″ alt=”Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez hold hands while walking outside. She wears a white shirt and pants and he wears a white shirt and black jacket.” class=”wp-image-3690853″><figcaption class=”wp-element-caption”>Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez | Bauer-Griffin/GC Images</figcaption></figure>
<p id=”par-4_37″>In an interview later that year, Lopez further explained what she meant. She said that she was so dominant and driven in her career that she wanted someone to take care of her in her personal life. </p>
<p id=”par-5_37″>“It’s about being able to feel safe somewhere,” she told <a target=”_blank” href=”https://www.wmagazine.com/story/jennifer-lopez-gives-the-lowdown-on-marriage-movies-and-bens-big-night-out” rel=”noreferrer noopener”>W Magazine</a>. “That doesn’t mean I’m not a strong, independent woman. But I think when you’re in a relationship, you have to submit to a certain extent.”</p>
<h2 class=”wp-block-heading” id=”h-everyone-who-knows-her-says-she-is-relentlessly-hardworking”>Everyone who knows her says she is relentlessly hardworking</h2>
<p id=”par-6_23″>Given what those who know Lopez have said about her drive, it’s hardly surprising that she wanted some sort of reprieve at home.</p>
<p id=”par-7_28″>“I’ve never seen anybody work as hard as her,” her longtime work partner Elaine Goldsmith-Thomas said. “She worked for every opportunity she’s ever had. She wasn’t given anything.”</p>
<p id=”par-8_15″>Lopez has often described <a href=”https://www.cheatsheet.com/entertainment/jennifer-lopez-said-fills-single-minute-life-work.html/”>herself as a workaholic</a>. She feels she has something to prove.</p>
<p id=”par-9_50″>“I’m not one of those media darlings,” she told <a target=”_blank” href=”https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a19181340/jennifer-lopez-interview-2018/” rel=”noreferrer noopener”>Harper’s Bazaar</a>. “I didn’t get kissed into this business. I’m from the Bronx. I had to find my way, so I’ve always felt like I had to prove myself. Maybe that’s a good drive to have. I never settle for mediocre.”</p>
<h2 class=”wp-block-heading” id=”h-jennifer-lopez-said-men-and-women-have-different-approaches-to-relationships-nbsp”>Jennifer Lopez said men and women have different approaches to relationships </h2>
<p id=”par-10_43″>Lopez said she has a traditional view of relationships. She had a preference for this dynamic, but she also felt it was inherent to the nature of men and women. She believes women are more focused on building a home life than men.</p>
<p id=”par-11_48″>“It’s the difference between ‘me’ and ‘we,’” she said. “Men operate from their own universe, and women are focused on family, keeping it together. Because we’re caretakers by nature — we give birth, we have to take care of that baby — and men don’t have that experience.”</p>
<figure class=”wp-block-image size-full” id=”emb-2″><img decoding=”async” src=”https://www.cheatsheet.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/JLo.webp?strip=all&quality=80″ alt=”Jennifer Lopez wears a brown dress and black gloves. She stands in front of a staircase with her hand on her hip.” class=”wp-image-3691614″><figcaption class=”wp-element-caption”>Jennifer Lopez | Pascal Le Segretain/Getty Images for Christian Dior</figcaption></figure>
<div class=”related-article related-article–simple”>
<span class=”related-article-flag”>Related</span>
<p class=”related-article__title”>
<a href=”https://www.cheatsheet.com/entertainment/jennifer-lopez-said-relationship-alex-rodriguez-worked-met.html/”>
Jennifer Lopez Said Her Relationship With Alex Rodriguez Wouldn’t Have Worked When They First Met </a>
</p>
</div>
<p id=”par-12_13″>By contrast, she thought men were more drawn to working and making money.</p>
<p id=”par-13_17″>“They have to bring home the bacon, that kind of stuff,” she said. “Those are different sensibilities.”</p>
<p id=”par-14_15″>Despite this, Lopez has always been a significant breadwinner in all of <a href=”https://www.cheatsheet.com/entertainment/jennifer-lopez-shared-keeps-ignoring-red-flags-in-relationships.html/”>her romantic relationships</a>.</p>